How do you know when your life is off-track? You may experience one or more of the following:
- Low motivation
- Working longer and harder with results that don’t match effort
- Not having time to do the things you want to do
- Feeling as though you are pleasing everyone and there’s no room for you
- More arguments with loved ones
- Work resentments
- Feeling lost
Or do you experience it differently?
And what can you do about it?
How to get your life on track
The first thing to do is be clear about what “on track” looks like. People often get stuck because they don’t have clarity about what they want, just what they don’t want. Your unconscious mind likes clarity – it becomes a map to follow. It enables your unconscious mind to organise itself more easily around your goals in terms of your choices and actions.
And then what about when the unexpected happens? Life is a little bit like rowing a boat. You need a clear goal and to know how to get there – your map (or chart to keep the nautical theme). But you also need to row your boat and navigate any obstacles and elements, otherwise you stay just where you are, or go round in circles, or run adrift. Rowing takes effort, a keen eye on what’s going on and positive intention.
Staying on track
So, to make progress, keep rowing with your goal in mind. If the elements are against you – a storm, a strong wind, a powerful undercurrent – you may be swept far off course. You may need to course-correct.
If you are passive to the elements, there is no telling where you will end up. So intentional rowing is really important. Just 1 degree off course can take you wildly adrift from your goal. Every moment takes you further away. That might be the difference between arriving in France or Belgium – and the longer the journey, the wider off the mark you are. This is no time to be passive to life events – this is a time to be the creator of them.
Important questions to ask yourself
- Where am I now?
- Where do I want to be?
- What are the milestones on the way?
- What do I need to stop doing?
- What do I need to start doing?
- What do I need to continue doing?
- What do I need to let go of?
- What fences do I need to mend?
- What boundaries do I need to set? Or re-establish?
- What needs to change in my relationships?
- What do I need to change in my environment?
- What needs to change in my behaviours?
- What skills do I need to develop?
- Is my life aligned to my values?
- How will I know I am on track?
- Can you think of others which are releant to your situation?
Now is the time
There are only so many years in your life. Make 2023 matter. Steer your boat. Put in the work to get the results. Enjoy the journey. But make it happen.
And, if you would like a little help with gaining clarity on what you want and how to get there, and you need some help with navigating and rowing, do get in touch for a no-obligation chat.
A tip from one of the best
Warren Buffet, one of the world’s most successful businessmen, investor and philanthropist, was asked what is the most important investment you can make today and he replied that the most important investment you can make is in yourself. Here’s to a wonderful year ahead.
(C) Tricia Woolfrey
PS If you want to get your life on track but would like a bit of at home help, read 21 Ways and 21 Days to the Life You Want. This gives you clarity, inspiration and tools to help you.