Need a Lucky Break? 5 Questions to Ask Yourself

Need a lucky breakDo you feel that all you need is a lucky break?  You’ve been working hard and now it is time for things to go your way?

Perhaps it’s work related, or a relationship is floundering or your finances have taken a turn.  We all feel that luck is not on our side sometimes and it can feel so unfair when the effort has been there but not the results.

What to do?

So, what do you do?  Give up?  Wait?  Hope?  Could it really be that some people are just unlucky and ‘some guys have all the luck’ as the song goes?  Or do you make your own luck?  Luck seems to be a combination of effort, opportunity and a positive attitude.  Here are some questions to focus your mind on improving your results:

5 Questions to ask yourself to increase your ‘luck’

  1. Have you taken the right steps towards your goal? Sometimes it is as simple as the effort being in the wrong activity – one which will not yield the results nearly as well as something else.  For example, if it is your goal to improve your relationship with your partner, simply avoiding answering back is not going to be enough to deepen your relationship.  You may also need to work on the style of your communication, your helpfulness, your ability to empathise, knowing when to compromise, etc.  So, avoiding answering back only has a small impact.
  2. Have you given it enough time? Most ‘unlucky’ people tend to give up too soon with success just around the corner.  As a culture we seem to have been seduced by the idea of instant results and instant gratification as if it is our right.  But anything worthwhile takes time. 
  3. Are your efforts consistent?   Doing a lot of different things inconsistently is unlikely to work.  So, if you are worried about your finances, it isn’t enough to simply find a better paying job or to find a new credit card with zero interest if your relationship with money doesn’t change – this requires a consistent approach.  You are simply buying time before you experience further problems.
  4. If there was a learning in this for you, what would it be? I love this question.  It helps you move out of ‘poor me’ thinking into the deeper meaning of a situation.  For example, let’s say you have been working towards getting a particular job and you didn’t get it.  Perhaps the learning may be that the job you were aiming for was the one you thought you should  But, if you were being really honest with yourself, didn’t really fill you with joy even though you thought it would impress others.  Sometimes in asking the question about what learning is there, people slip further into ‘poor me’ mode such as “Nothing good happens to me”.  But there is always a positive learning, one which is empowering, liberating or enlightening.  So, with the job example, the learning might be to be a lot more particular about what is right for you rather than what will impress others.
  5. How good are you at spotting things going right? Sometimes we are so focussed on what is going wrong that we miss the good stuff, including opportunities.  Whether you believe in the law of attraction or not, this can really interfere with your ability to build on what’s good, and your ability to attract good experiences, both of which have a direct impact on whether you feel lucky.

It is really worth looking at how you are getting in your own way.  Hopefully these questions will help point you in the right direction but, if you need more help, do get in touch on 0345 130 0854 so we can see where you need to make changes so your luck gets better!

 

 

© Tricia Woolfrey

Pulling through a difficult time

How to come through a difficult time without breakingWe all go through difficult times – if you are engaged in life, you can’t avoid them no matter how strong you are, or enlightened.

So, since they can’t be avoided, the real question is what you can do to help yourself pull through a difficult time.  There are three principles I want to share with you that should make the transition easier.

 

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Stress and Weight Loss: The Inconvenient Truth

Stress and Weight Loss: SurreyThere are many reasons why someone may be carrying more weight than they want to.  And it’s rarely as simple as calories-in versus calories-out.

Our relationship with food is complicated.  We first associate food with comfort when we are born and nurse at our mothers’ breast.  Most of us have experienced an adult offering us a biscuit or a sweet to cheer us up.  So that link between negative feelings and using food to soothe is reinforced as we grow.  the more it happens, the more it becomes a habit.

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The Real Spirit of Christmas: How to have a Happy Christmas

Stress Free ChristmasThe expectation of Christmas is one of perfectly orchestrated joy, goodwill, hearty food and glorious gifts.  We try so hard to achieve perfection that it really interferes with achieving it at all.  Christmas TV ads are tugging at our heartstrings (and our purses); magazines are filled with tips on how to make the best of the festivities, Christmas songs are playing on the radio; shops are filled with gifts to delight our loved ones; and the supermarket shelves are filled with produce to grace our tables and expand our waistlines.  It seems that all that’s missing is the snow.   The pressure to spend and please are enormous.  Yes, Christmas can be stressful.

It can feel overwhelming, and for some, a lonely time.  I don’t know about you, but I think it’s time to turn the pressure off and The Real Spirit of Christmas on, especially for those who are going through a hard time.  Here are my tips:

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Stress – Is Your Body Paying the Price?

Stress Management SurreyI was reading an article about The Crown star Claire Foy for whom the stress of filming, motherhood, and the breakdown of her marriage left her with exhaustion and infection, necessitating six weeks off work.

If you are someone who pushes yourself through stressors, or find that too many things are happening at once, the stress can come out in physical symptoms such as fatigue, migraines, IBS, or a lowered immune system, amongst other things.  

The problem is that when self-care is so far down your list of priorities, you put yourself at risk of burnout (in Claire’s case) or breakdown.  It’s just too big a burden for the body to carry.

As Claire said “You can keep yourself going for a long time, and that’s what I have pretty much been doing since I gave birth.  My body has paid the price.” Continue reading

Is your Life Like a Runaway Train?

Life goals - on trackAre you the kind of person who allows life to unfold?  Or the kind who likes to plan your route?

There are pros and cons to both.  With the former (allowing life to unfold), you can enjoy the scenery, and any surprises on the way.  Some of the surprises will be good ones, others less so.  But you may end up somewhere you didn’t want to be.   And you may also find that you experience more problems that you had expected.  More an unravelling than an unfolding.    Continue reading

World Kindness Day – We Could All Use Some

World Kindness DayLong working hours, job insecurity, reality TV, materialism and the economy can distract us from what is really important.

Whilst we are living in a world where we have many ways of communicating, we are bombarded with so much information – as well as demands on us by our families and work – that we may find ourselves feeling distracted and isolated.  As the years go by, there appears to be less connection between individuals, people are less patient and strangers view each other suspiciously. The world seems to be turning into a lonelier and harsher place.

 

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10 Reasons for Life Being Off Track

Life Off-Track

I’m not sure whether your life is on-track or off-track.  I’m not even sure if you had a plan for your life at all.  But for many, life is not quite panning out.  You will know if life isn’t on track if you feel a sense of frustration or ‘is this it?’.  Or maybe you lack balance in your life or a sense of flow and fulfillment.

So, I thought I would share with you 10 possible reasons for this.  There are, of course, many more.  See if any of these are true for you, even a little.  Because you only have to be 1% out to find yourself a few years down the line far away from your intended destination:

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Stress: What Impact is it Having on You?

Sometimes we sail through life at such speed, we are unaware of what’s happening to us or the effect this is having.  However, stress has consequences on your life, your relationships , your career and your health, often by stealth.  

Stress management surrey and harley street

Stressors have multiple minor sources (eg losing your keys); or a couple of things which are low level but consistent and slowly eroding your resilience (eg a neighbour who keeps taking your parking space); or it may be something huge which has happened to you, whether long ago, or recently.   Continue reading

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