Are you the kind of person who allows life to unfold? Or the kind who likes to plan your route?
There are pros and cons to both. With the former (allowing life to unfold), you can enjoy the scenery, and any surprises on the way. Some of the surprises will be good ones, others less so. But you may end up somewhere you didn’t want to be. And you may also find that you experience more problems that you had expected. More an unravelling than an unfolding. Continue reading
It’s fair to say that there aren’t many people who like to feel discomfort. Given the choice, we will opt for feelings of ease and comfort every time. And why not?
However, never allowing yourself to feel uncomfortable can be a sign that you are becoming “comfort-zone restricted”. Comfort is the path of least resistance but it is also the path of least growth.
If there’s a breakthrough you are seeking in your life, it’s important to cultivate the ability to tolerate the discomfort associated with change. Think about those daisies which pop up through the cracks in the concrete – there was determination to push through, even if it didn’t feel good at the time. But the rewards are there. You get to flourish and grow. As you were meant to do. Continue reading
We are nearing the end of the month where 95% of resolutions are broken. For most, this will cause feelings of frustration, powerlessness and perhaps guilt.
The problem is that people resolve to make a change but Continue reading
I’ve been helping people for over 20 years now and something has become really clear: people can come up with all kinds of explanations to not doing those things which will help them transform their lives. These come principally in two guises. A reason or an excuse. But, what’s the difference? And does it matter? Let’s look at the difference first: Continue reading
Whatever you believe to be true about life, one thing is certain – time passes whether you like it or not. This, in turn, means that one of three things have happened:
1. You have moved closer to your goals
2. You have stayed where you are
3. You have slipped backwards
Today is tomorrow’s yesterday and whatever decisions you make today will affect your tomorrows.
It was Einstein who said that you can’t fix a problem with the same thinking that caused it. This is one of the reasons why people stay stuck. Not for the want of trying. But it can feel like a constant internal battle which drains your energy and your confidence. Not only that but it can take you in the opposite direction to where you want to be. Maybe a millimetre at a time so you hardly notice at first, but before long you are way off track, and finding your way back can seem like wading up a treacle-draped mountain in ill-fitting slippers and with your eyes closed.
Many people are guided by poor role models, past experiences, habits or fear. And efforts can be limited by not having the right experiences or the right insights to develop the results you are looking for. But what to do about it? Continue reading
CHANGE – ARE YOU READY?
Do you want something in your life to be different? Perhaps to overcome a habit, increase self-esteem, improve a situation, develop a skill or manage stress more effectively? All change has 5 phases, according to the work of Prochaska and Di Clemente. It’s worth knowing these to see a) where you are and b) where you want to be. This article will help you to understand that. Continue reading