I was listening to the radio last week when I heard the presenter (Chris Evans) say “What’s the point in having a mind if you can’t change it?”
Of course, my ears pricked up at that and it got me thinking: if you have a point of view, is it a good thing or a bad thing to stick to it?
After much mulling, I decided that it was both good and bad, and here is how:
It’s fair to say that there aren’t many people who like to feel discomfort. Given the choice, we will opt for feelings of ease and comfort every time. And why not?
However, never allowing yourself to feel uncomfortable can be a sign that you are becoming “comfort-zone restricted”. Comfort is the path of least resistance but it is also the path of least growth.
If there’s a breakthrough you are seeking in your life, it’s important to cultivate the ability to tolerate the discomfort associated with change. Think about those daisies which pop up through the cracks in the concrete – there was determination to push through, even if it didn’t feel good at the time. But the rewards are there. You get to flourish and grow. As you were meant to do. Continue reading
How many times are you told to listen to your gut? It is supposed to be the seat of your instinct: that biological tendency to react in a particular way. It’s subliminal, meaning that it doesn’t come from conscious thought, but a sense of ‘knowing’.
Often we ignore it at our peril. But also, at times, we pay too much attention to it at our peril. Why? Because it may not be what it seems: You have a part of your psyche which protects you from harm. Sometimes it can be so protective that it in itself causes harm because it makes decisions based on fear rather than from a sense of your highest good.
If you have ever not gone for that dream job because ‘where you are isn’t so bad’; or you haven’t had the important conversation with someone because ‘the time isn’t right’; or you didn’t ask someone for a date in case you got a ‘no’, you will know what I’m talking about. It is the part of you that is ruled by fear of success, failure, rejection and more. This isn’t your true instinct but your fear. And it can be pretty good at convincing you otherwise – giving you a lot of excuses why you think this way. But it blocks your ability to grow, to widen your comfort zone, to become the best version of yourself and to live a full life.
Getting in touch with your gut
So, what can you do about it? Here are four techniques to help you: Continue reading
Irritable Bowel Syndrome (IBS) is a very common condition. It can be both painful and embarrassing. For one of my clients, it significantly impacted her career because she was unable to do her job because of the travel required. You can imagine the difference it can make to people’s social life too.
Symptoms include: Continue reading
We often have two choices: to fall to the level of our excuses, or to rise to the level of our potential. I heard that phrase somewhere and it really struck a chord.
But, boy can that sofa be tempting. And the ironing seem alluring. And haven’t you done enough to deserve catching up on your favourite box-set?
But excuses lead to a much less comfortable place: the place of regret. Continue reading
We are nearing the end of the month where 95% of resolutions are broken. For most, this will cause feelings of frustration, powerlessness and perhaps guilt.
The problem is that people resolve to make a change but Continue reading
Good intentions are one thing. Good results are something else. The gap between the two is the quality and consistency of your actions.
For most, good intentions are forgotten in the maelstrom of life: stress gets in the way and other priorities fight for your attention. But, if you want 2018 to be your best year yet, Continue reading
The Christmas TV ads are tugging at our heartstrings (and our purses); magazines are filled with tips on how to make the best Christmas lunch, tables heaving from the weight of it all; Christmas songs are playing on the radio; shops are filled with goods to tantalise; and the supermarket shelves are filled with produce which expires before the big day, assuming we will be eating the same foods from now into the Boxing Day. And it even seems like snow may be glistening, just like the films/cards/songs. There is so much pressure to enjoy Christmas that it interferes with the enjoyment of Christmas. The stress of it all can seem overwhelming. Continue reading
Long working hours, job insecurity, reality TV, materialism and the economy can distract us from what is really important.
Whilst we are living in a world where we have many ways of communicating, we are bombarded with so much information – as well as demands on us by our families and work – that we may find ourselves feeling distracted and isolated. As the years go by, there appears to be less connection between individuals, people are less patient and strangers view each other suspiciously. The world seems to be turning into a lonelier and harsher place.
When two people argue and there seems no way to resolve it, there are factors at play which interfere with the truth. Continue reading