This is Stress Awareness Month so it is a good time to reflect on the signs you may be stressed. Why? Because some people are so good at just pushing through that they miss important warning signs.
Why does this matter? Because if you ignore the signs for too long, you are at risk of either burnout or breakdown. You don’t want this to be you, or someone you care about because recovery time can be a year or more.
So, knowledge is power. It allows you to spot the signs and take corrective action so you protect yourself. Prevention is always better than cure.
Here are my top ten signs of stress that I notice with my clients:
1. IBS symptoms
8. Difficulty concentrating
9. Loss of humour
10. An increase in distracting behaviour such as comfort eating, smoking, drinking, social media, online shopping, gambling, etc.
How many of these do you tick? Just one can be a sign of stress. Of course, there might be other factors which are causing the symptoms. Either way, it is worth having an assessment to see what’s happening for you and what you can do about it.
Call me on 0345 130 0854 to find out how I can help you. You’ll be glad you did.
© Tricia Woolfrey
PS To find out more about how I work with stress, check this out.
Anger management is often considered suitable only for those who have a habit of exploding. Not so. It helps everyone with their anger, including those who don’t recognise or acknowledge this emotion in themselves or express it to others. Anger is one of those emotions that is misunderstood and, for many, it is considered as inappropriate or even bad.
However, it is both natural and healthy to feel anger. It is just when it not expressed appropriately, or not expressed at all that it can cause problems.
When a client says to me that they never get angry, it is a concern as it is often a sign of suppression, usually subconscious. The person often has physical symptoms that don’t clear up by usual means. Symptoms such as insomnia, migraines, aches and pains, eczema, etc.
Like all of our emotions, anger has a purpose: to signal that something needs your Continue reading
I was listening to the radio last week when I heard the presenter (Chris Evans) say “What’s the point in having a mind if you can’t change it?”
Of course, my ears pricked up at that and it got me thinking: if you have a point of view, is it a good thing or a bad thing to stick to it?
After much mulling, I decided that it was both good and bad, and here is how:
With just a few weeks to go, are you looking forward to Christmas or dreading it? Does the prospect of spending enforced time with relatives worry you? Are you anxious about getting into debt at Christmas or making a fool of yourself at the office Christmas party?
Christmas is the most stressful time of the year so here are my tips to survive it:
One of the questions I ask my clients is how they would rate their energy. I am amazed at the number of people who aren’t happy with their levels of energy. Sometimes it is because they feel low emotionally and their energy mirrors their mood. Or they are trying to keep a lid on any negative emotions which is leaving them exhausted. Sometimes it’s because they are overworked or overwhelmed. Sometimes it is down to lifestyle. And other times it is due to diet. It is a highly complex area. So, take this simple quiz. Do you:
1. Wake up tired?
2. Perk up once you have your first coffee (or three)?
3. Have a lot of energy but when you stop, you feel like you’re in a coma? Continue reading
The human mind is fascinating. In the many years I have been doing this work, what has become clear is the way we sabotage ourselves in life is a common problem with many faces: The woman who wants to lose weight but continues eating copious amounts of chocolate; The man who wants a closer relationship with his wife but continues to lie to her; The woman who wants to advance her career but allows herself to be treated like a doormat. The examples are endless.
It’s as though we have our foot on the break and the accelerator at the same time. Moving forwards and then backwards but never really getting anywhere and feeling incredibly frustrated by it all.
When you understand that the unconscious mind is always seeking to fulfil your needs it can become even more confusing until you look a little deeper. Continue reading
As a coach and therapist, I am often asked for the difference, if any between the two disciplines. It can be hard to know whether you need a therapist or a coach or both. So this article will help you to understand the differences so you can make an informed choice. This isn’t an exhaustive list and there is a fair amount of cross-over. In fact, with my clients, I often blend the two.
Let’s start with the similarities. Both offer self-insight. This is important because insight is the first step to change. They can both help you manage yourself more effectively and help you live your full potential: therapy by removing blocks, coaching by creating a roadmap.
In the last article, I explained that feelings are your signposts to what is happening in your life. We explored the seven main negative emotions which, when ignored can cause them to become stronger, as though they are shouting to be heard. When you listen to what your feelings are telling you and respond appropriately, you are on your way to feeling a lot better about yourself, gaining perspective on a situation and having a healthier relationship with yourself and others. Yet, we tend to suppress, repress and distract, often with what I call “too-muching” behaviours like eating more, drinking more, smoking more, spending more time on social media or buying something else you don’t need.
However, these just cause the feelings to become more powerful as they fight for acknowledgement. Failing to do so can lead to health problems, depression, relationship problems and more. So, once you have acknowledged the feeling, what should you do about it? This article offers some constructive ways of dealing with negative feelings.
There are three main ways you can help yourself: Continue reading