Co-dependence can be described as the need for a person to be a certain way in order for you to be OK. If you are more concerned with others’ needs than your own, is this selflessness or is it co-dependence? If you find yourself regularly ‘rescuing’ others, not only is this an indicator for co-dependence but it also means you are denying them the gift of growth.

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I was reading an article about The Crown star Claire Foy for whom the stress of filming, motherhood, and the breakdown of her marriage left her with exhaustion and infection, necessitating six weeks off work.

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Are you the kind of person who allows life to unfold? Or the kind who likes to plan your route? There are pros and cons to both. With the former (allowing life to unfold), you can enjoy the scenery, and any surprises on the way.

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Anger management is often considered suitable only for those who have a habit of exploding. Not so. It helps everyone with their anger, including those who don’t recognise or acknowledge this emotion in themselves or express it to others.

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I was listening to the radio last week when I heard the presenter (Chris Evans) say “What’s the point in having a mind if you can’t change it?” Of course, my ears pricked up at that and it got me thinking: if you have a point of view, is it a good thing or a bad thing to stick to it?

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It’s fair to say that there aren’t many people who like to feel discomfort. Given the choice, we will opt for feelings of ease and comfort every time. And why not? However, never allowing yourself to feel uncomfortable can be a sign that you are becoming “comfort-zone restricted”. Comfort is the path of least resistance but it is also the path of least growth.

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How many times are you told to listen to your gut? It is supposed to be the seat of your instinct: that biological tendency to react in a particular way. It’s subliminal, meaning that it doesn’t come from conscious thought, but a sense of ‘knowing’.

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Irritable Bowel Syndrome (IBS) is a very common condition. It can be both painful and embarrassing. For one of my clients, it significantly impacted her career because she was unable to do her job because of the travel required. You can imagine the difference it can make to people’s social life too.

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We often have two choices: to fall to the level of our excuses, or to rise to the level of our potential. I heard that phrase somewhere and it really struck a chord. But, boy can that sofa be tempting. And the ironing seem alluring. And haven’t you done enough to deserve catching up on your favourite box-set?

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We are nearing the end of the month where 95% of resolutions are broken. For most, this will cause feelings of frustration, powerlessness and perhaps guilt. The problem is that people resolve to make a change but continue with the same choices. And, of course, with the same choices you get the same results.

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