Co-dependency is a psychological state characterised by the need to protect or control other people and is often accompanied by self-neglect. People who suffer from co-dependency live a life that is based on others and their needs without taking care of themselves.
Do you recognise any of the following common signs? You don’t need to experience all the signs to be co-dependent but the more you identify with the more co-dependent you are likely to be:
Co-dependents often come from dysfunctional families where a parent may be an alcohol or drug addict. This is likely to be where they learned to take responsibility for others who were not taking responsibility for themselves.
People who seem in need of something such as money, love, support or who are addicts are often easy but unconscious targets for co-dependent people who go to extreme lengths to help them – often to an unhealthy extent.
Recognising the pattern is the first step to recovery. It is essential that you start to prioritise your own needs, absolve yourself of the “people-pleasing” compulsion, practice positive thinking and experience yourself as a separate being, worthy of self-care and without the need for the approval of others. This is not about being selfish or arrogant but about self-esteem.
It is important to understand the difference between support and dependency and learn to say “no”. Co-dependency robs the other person of the satisfaction of personal growth and is incredibly draining.
Freeing yourself of this drive can be challenging. However, with hypnotherapy, the unconscious drivers can be addressed and it can instill healthy and positive thought patterns, behaviours and self-esteem so that you free yourself from the disease to please so that you develop healthier relationships.
If you want help, or to find out more, do contact me on 0345 130 0854. I look forward to hearing from you!
© Tricia Woolfrey 2014