Are you the kind of person who allows life to unfold? Or the kind who likes to plan your route?
There are pros and cons to both. With the former (allowing life to unfold), you can enjoy the scenery, and any surprises on the way. Some of the surprises will be good ones, others less so. But you may end up somewhere you didn’t want to be. And you may also find that you experience more problems that you had expected. More an unravelling than an unfolding. Continue reading
How many times are you told to listen to your gut? It is supposed to be the seat of your instinct: that biological tendency to react in a particular way. It’s subliminal, meaning that it doesn’t come from conscious thought, but a sense of ‘knowing’.
Often we ignore it at our peril. But also, at times, we pay too much attention to it at our peril. Why? Because it may not be what it seems: You have a part of your psyche which protects you from harm. Sometimes it can be so protective that it in itself causes harm because it makes decisions based on fear rather than from a sense of your highest good.
If you have ever not gone for that dream job because ‘where you are isn’t so bad’; or you haven’t had the important conversation with someone because ‘the time isn’t right’; or you didn’t ask someone for a date in case you got a ‘no’, you will know what I’m talking about. It is the part of you that is ruled by fear of success, failure, rejection and more. This isn’t your true instinct but your fear. And it can be pretty good at convincing you otherwise – giving you a lot of excuses why you think this way. But it blocks your ability to grow, to widen your comfort zone, to become the best version of yourself and to live a full life.
Getting in touch with your gut
So, what can you do about it? Here are four techniques to help you: Continue reading
We often have two choices: to fall the level of our excuses, or to rise to the level of our potential. I heard that phrase somewhere and it really struck a chord.
But, boy can that sofa be tempting. And the ironing seem alluring. And haven’t you done enough to deserve catching up on your favourite box-set?
But excuses lead to a much less comfortable place: the place of regret. Continue reading
We are nearing the end of the month where 95% of resolutions are broken. For most, this will cause feelings of frustration, powerlessness and perhaps guilt.
The problem is that people resolve to make a change but Continue reading
The Christmas TV ads are tugging at our heartstrings (and our purses); magazines are filled with tips on how to make the best Christmas lunch, tables heaving from the weight of it all; Christmas songs are playing on the radio; shops are filled with goods to tantalise; and the supermarket shelves are filled with produce which expires before the big day, assuming we will be eating the same foods from now into the Boxing Day. And it even seems like snow may be glistening, just like the films/cards/songs. There is so much pressure to enjoy Christmas that it interferes with the enjoyment of Christmas. Continue reading
I’ve been helping people for over 20 years now and something has become really clear: people can come up with all kinds of explanations to not doing those things which will help them transform their lives. These come principally in two guises. A reason or an excuse. But, what’s the difference? And does it matter? Let’s look at the difference first: Continue reading
I’m not sure whether your life is on-track or off-track. I’m not even sure if you had a plan for your life at all. But for many, life is not quite panning out. You will know if life isn’t on track if you feel a sense of frustration or ‘is this it?’. Or maybe you lack balance in your life or a sense of flow and fulfillment.
So, I thought I would share with you 10 possible reasons for this. There are, of course, many more. See if any of these are true for you, even a little. Because you only have to be 1% out to find yourself a few years down the line far away from your intended destination: