What’s the Point in Having a Mind?

Open Mind

I was listening to the radio last week when I heard the presenter (Chris Evans) say “What’s the point in having a mind if you can’t change it?” 

Of course, my ears pricked up at that and it got me thinking:  if you have a point of view, is it a good thing or a bad thing to stick to it?

After much mulling, I decided that it was both good and bad, and here is how:

Good

Not being easily swayed to someone else’s view can be an indication of a strong sense of self, being a person of principle, not easily swayed.  If you are simply a mirror for someone else’s opinions, then what do you stand for?  Who are you?

Bad

It can be a sign that you are rigid in your thinking, not open to new information which, given due consideration, can change your perspective on a situation in a way which empowers.  It can be a sign that you are simply seeking validation for currently held views – something called confirmation bias.  We are all prone to it, unconsciously, and it can keep us trapped.

Since thoughts create feelings and feelings create behaviours and behaviours create results, if you always think what you always thought, you could be stuck in a situation which no longer serves.  Thoughts and beliefs are just opinions, they are not fact, and they can limit you if you are not aware.  Widening your perspective, being open to new ideas, can create more opportunities.  It can also ease conflict, enabling a win-win to be achieved.  It can be a platform for growth and for a stronger, more honest relationship with yourself and others.

Getting the balance right

So, how do you know if you are being sufficiently flexible-rigid?  If you never change your mind about anything, you are probably a rigid thinker.  If you are always changing your mind, it means you’re unlikely to have a strong sense of self.  You need a balance of holding certain views and beliefs, and considering others before adopting them as valid for you.  It requires an openness, a willingness to see another perspective and the ability to take a balanced view.

It is useful to develop the ability to look for evidence for and against an idea before adopting it as ‘truth’.  It’s a real gift to be able to take in new information and see it objectively before deciding whether to allow it to affect your original stance.

Is your umbrella open?

It was Walter Gropius who said that your mind is like an umbrella, it functions best when open.  And I couldn’t agree more.

If this resonates with you at all and you would like some support to help you develop your perspective, do feel free to call for an informal chat on 0345 130 0854.

Discomfort Could Be a Sign of a Breakthrough

Discomfort Can Be a Sign of BreakthroughIt’s fair to say that there aren’t many people who like to feel discomfort.  Given the choice, we will opt for feelings of ease and comfort every time.  And why not?
 
However, never allowing yourself to feel uncomfortable can be a sign that you are becoming “comfort-zone restricted”.  Comfort is the path of least resistance but it is also the path of least growth.
 
If there’s a breakthrough you are seeking in your life, it’s important to cultivate the ability to tolerate the discomfort associated with change.  Think about those daisies which pop up through the cracks in the concrete – there was determination to push through, even if it didn’t feel good at the time.  But the rewards are there.  You get to flourish and grow.  As you were meant to do. Continue reading

What You Need to Know About Your Gut Instinct

What you need to know about your gut instinct

How many times are you told to listen to your gut?  It is supposed to be the seat of your instinct:  that biological tendency to react in a particular way.  It’s subliminal, meaning that it doesn’t come from conscious thought, but a sense of ‘knowing’.

Often we ignore it at our peril.  But also, at times, we pay too much attention to it at our peril.  Why?  Because it may not be what it seems:  You have a part of your psyche which protects you from harm.  Sometimes it can be so protective that it in itself causes harm because it makes decisions based on fear rather than from a sense of your highest good.

If you have ever not gone for that dream job because ‘where you are isn’t so bad’;  or you haven’t had the important conversation with someone because ‘the time isn’t right’;  or you didn’t ask someone for a date in case you got a ‘no’, you will know what I’m talking about.  It is the part of you that is ruled by fear of success, failure, rejection and more.  This isn’t your true instinct but your fear.  And it can be pretty good at convincing you otherwise – giving you a lot of excuses why you think this way.  But it blocks your ability to grow, to widen your comfort zone, to become the best version of yourself and to live a full life.

Getting in touch with your gut

So, what can you do about it?  Here are four techniques to help you: Continue reading

It’s IBS Awareness Month

Symptoms and Causes of IBSIrritable Bowel Syndrome (IBS) is a very common condition.  It can be both painful and embarrassing.  For one of my clients, it significantly impacted her career because she was unable to do her job because of the travel required.  You can imagine the difference it can make to people’s social life too.

Symptoms include:  Continue reading

To rise or to fall

Are you falling to the level of your excuses or rising to the level of your potential?

We often have two choices:  to fall the level of our excuses, or to rise to the level of our potential.  I heard that phrase somewhere and it really struck a chord. 

But, boy can that sofa be tempting.  And the ironing seem alluring.  And haven’t you done enough to deserve catching up on your favourite box-set?

But excuses lead to a much less comfortable place:  the place of regret.  Continue reading

What Would Make This A Happy Christmas?

What would make your Christmas?

The Christmas TV ads are tugging at our heartstrings (and our purses); magazines are filled with tips on how to make the best Christmas lunch, tables heaving from the weight of it all; Christmas songs are playing on the radio; shops are filled with goods to tantalise; and the supermarket shelves are filled with produce which expires before the big day, assuming we will be eating the same foods from now into the Boxing Day.  And it even seems like snow may be glistening, just like the films/cards/songs.  There is so much pressure to enjoy Christmas that it interferes with the enjoyment of Christmas. Continue reading

World Kindness Day – We Could All Use Some

World Kindness DayLong working hours, job insecurity, reality TV, materialism and the economy can distract us from what is really important.

Whilst we are living in a world where we have many ways of communicating, we are bombarded with so much information – as well as demands on us by our families and work – that we may find ourselves feeling distracted and isolated.  As the years go by, there appears to be less connection between individuals, people are less patient and strangers view each other suspiciously. The world seems to be turning into a lonelier and harsher place.

 

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